Everyone can be intuitive and foresee impending divorce, here is how to spot a spouse’s intentions and be warned, - you need wealth protection strategies. This is the first of a series of articles detailing how to spot a forthcoming divorce, how to do pre divorce planning and how to handle the divorce itself. As an International Asset Protection and Divorce Strategist working in both Europe and the U.S. I have secretly advised some of the highest profile business executives helping them save millions in the divorce process.
My clients are intelligent; not just because they use me, that goes without saying, but because they are at the top of the business food-chain. They often run multi-million dollar businesses, or family empires; they are creators of wealth, generals in charge of business legions. In the stress of personal unhappiness my clients wonder whether they are “paranoid” thinking their marriage is heading down the tube. Usually I am advising them about issues of asset protection and various wealth protection strategies and they are beginning to wonder is it all necessary; maybe they were just being “paranoid”? I usually ask some questions to find out why they feel things are not going well. Generally I find a client’s intuitive judgement is generally correct; it is a truism for good reason; there is rarely smoke without fire!.

Here are five tell-tale signs that things are not as they should be.

1) Attention changes. Either the spouse pays you more attention due to guilt or else seems to find fault with you, because they try to justify the affair in their mind.

2) Sex changes; this can be less interest in sex or indeed occasionally more interest.

3) Money changes. Try and keep a check on where the money goes; if they are more cautious with spending, it is often because there are additional expenses you don’t know about. Sometimes they start spending far more than previously on certain outgoings. This may mean they have received legal advice and be increasing their “financial needs”. This is your spouse doing their little bit of pre divorce planning.

4) Personal changes; watch out for habit changes in gym attendance, new clothes in the cupboard - but not used for you! New this or that, indeed any significant change of routine can signify a change of of object of desire.

5) Phone changes. Maybe they whisper on the phone and abruptly change voice tone or hang up when you come into the room. Check their mobile account, especially calls made to the same number after leaving for work or just before coming back from work.

As you will have noticed all of these are behavioural changes of one form or another, because when a person knows their personal relationship is wrong their behaviour changes. Emotional detachment signifies a lot. Avoiding communication or indeed unusual communication can signify that the relationship is not on course. When they avoid either connection to you or from their obligations as a spouse and start prioritising their needs and desires and behaving as if it is purely their life and they want to live it their own way rather than with you, then break-up will follow. Sometimes a spouse will accuse you of having an affair as a way of distracting attention from themselves

When you discover some of these changes do not confront your spouse as this will only mean they adjust their behaviour and make it more difficult for you to keep track of what they are doing. To the same degree that your spouse’s behaviour has changed because they know they are turning their back on their relationship with you, so you must make sure that your behaviour does not change to alert them to your suspicions. Instead, keep things as “normal” as possible and do some “pre divorce planning” and exercises in “wealth and asset protection” for the day that comes. Just as they are “playing a game” with you, so you must learn to play the same game in reverse while you protect your assets and wealth and work out a divorce strategy.

Next time, I’ll tell you five simple things you should do immediatley you become suspicious to protect your wealth and assets before the divorce war to follow.

Doctor Ditchem
International Divorce Strategist
Protecting wealth against Divorce!

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